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I can tell you now that getting on a plane to Brazil and staying there for three months was much more interesting than everything I had ever experienced through media consumption, and it was well worth the risk of getting robbed.\n\nThere are so many things that you can do if you want to experience variety. You can learn a new language and talk to people on Skype, or actually go to the country where the language is spoken. You can start a new hobby, or go to different meetups and learn what other people are doing. The possibilities are endless even if you don't have much money.\n<h2 id=\"significance\">3. Significance</h2>\nThe third need is the desire to feel important. We all want to be recognized for what we do and we want others to acknowledge our value.\n<h3 id=\"how-fantasies-meet-this-need-2\">How fantasies meet this need</h3>\nIn our fantasy, we can save the world and get admired by everyone. 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