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| comment | | "parent_author":"",<br>"parent_permlink":"life",<br>"author":"metama",<br>"permlink":"upgrade-your-life-drop-the-victim-mentality",<br>"title":"Upgrade Your Life: Drop The Victim Mentality",<br>"body":"I\u2019m rather intrigued to see how this post will be received. Could go well\u2026 we will see.\n\n\n![maxresdefault.jpg (https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmTcRytbKqg3qm36gCZiHm64gm8SPyAR3gqvyf4Ztwh2Gy\/maxresdefault.jpg)\n## Rpg Life\nIn life,<br> we assume different roles in order to achieve different goals. At a young age,<br> we assume the role of the *student*. As we get older we become an *adult*,<br> possibly an *employee* and maybe one day we become a *parent*. With each new role we assign ourselves **new qualities,<br> responsibilities and behavioral characteristics.**\n\n![Helpdesk--1080x675.jpg (https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmYQyxmJkbwqcZJv1J7S75y49unfFcTCwKCgeZngZGpAu6\/Helpdesk--1080x675.jpg)\n\n## Why is this important? \nWhy am I devoting my time to discuss this topic? These roles can be beneficial,<br> they help us understand our place on society,<br> navigate social constructs and simplify our decision making by giving us behavioral patterns to function off of \u2026 yet,<br> they can also be **incredibly detrimental.**\n\nWhen our roles become constrictive they can hold us back,<br> limit our self expression and control our lives in ways that are often hard to consciously assess.\n\nLet me dive a bit deeper. I will share a personal anecdote to help display this concept.\n\n## A Piece Of My Story\nAs a child I was rather frustrated and angry. I came in to a world that I saw as deeply flawed. **Injustice and inequality were rampant**,<br> greed and hatred seemed to be the qualities that led to power and control \u2026 it suffices to say that I disliked what I saw and I was **not** happy. I felt I was on the losing side of the equation and I didn\u2019t know what to do about it. I grew up with less money than most of my friends,<br> \u201cfewer\u201d opportunities (only in my mind) and I was angry and jealous. I felt like I had been dealt and unfair hand and I wanted what I thought was due to me.\n\n## \/Disconnect\nAt first I figured if the cards were stacked against me **I simply wouldn\u2019t play the game.** I *removed* myself from society and created a world in my imagination. It worked \u2026 for a time. Eventually the world broke through \u2026 my carefully constructed reality was shattered by responsibilities and obligations. My inability to accept the life of the begging pauper forced me to exert myself. I decided to play the game again \u2026 and again,<br> I was not happy. I lived with a grimace on my face. Unhappy that I was \u201cfalling into their trap\u201d but unable to create an alternative to their options,<br> my disgust for myself and the world continued to grow.\n\n## Writing My Own Rules\nTime went on,<br> and as we all do,<br> I grew wiser. I realized that if I was going to *play their game* I might as well do it in a manner that served me. I grew smarter. I played by my own rules,<br> things were starting to look up. Yet,<br> time and time again,<br> I noticed that I was walking around with a chip on my shoulder. I carried this notion that *I had been wronged*,<br> that *I was a victim* and that *I deserved some kind of remuneration for my hardships*. At first I ignored this,<br> and then for a period of time I believed it,<br> but finally I asked myself \u201cwhy am I feeling this way\u201d \u2026 **the answer would shock me.**\n\n![download (6).jpeg (https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmPrYMNRt36Tvpk6KV941qF9p32LYFNdxwkv8jxd3srwsW\/download%20(6).jpeg)\n\n## Living Life As A Victim\nI was feeling this way because I wanted to. Giving myself the label of \u201cvictim\u201d was an instant get out of jail free card. My new business venture failed? It\u2019s *their* fault. I wasn\u2019t happy with my life? I don\u2019t need to exert myself to create change because *the cards have been stacked against me*. I continued to play out this role because it had created a shelter for my ego. It gave me an imaginary rock to hide behind when life became challenging.\n\n## The Beginnings Of A Change\nSeeing this I knew I needed to make a change. If I continued to exist in this way I knew that I would never really succeed,<br> never really grow into the person that I knew I could become. It was scary at first,<br> walking through life without this coat of armor that I had carried for so long \u2026 but ultimately I knew it was for the best. I stopped wearing this grimace of anger and frustration. I stopped blaming others for my own shortcomings. My life became my own,<br> and I took FULL responsibility it. It was a challenge at times but an incredibly rewarding one.\n\n![download (5).jpeg (https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmRwyHd1ZYLh5zayatnzCbdLpviTee31LwdeGJjouh7fW1\/download%20(5).jpeg)\n\n## It\u2019s Time To Grow Up Boys And Girls\nI challenge you to question your own self definitions. Look into the shadows of your mind. What are you hiding from yourself? When we ask ourselves these questions in earnest we are given a truthful answer. Don\u2019t worry if you are not ready,<br> you will only be given a burden that you are capable of bearing. \n\n# If You Want To Talk,<br> Join Our Discord Group\n[We Talk About Cool Stuff ... And Are Friendly! (https:\/\/discord.gg\/SuqC2ZV)\n\n# Check Out Some Of My Other Posts Here\n\n* [Through The Darkness We See The Light (https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/through-the-darkness-we-see-the-light)\n\n* [Hack Your Life Series: Build The Life Of Your Dreams (https:\/\/steemit.com\/happiness\/@metama\/hack-your-life-series-build-the-life-of-your-dreams)\n\n* [Hack Your Life Series: Play To Win ... And Be Happy (https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/hack-your-life-series-play-to-win-and-be-happy)\n\n* [So you're feeling a bit down eh? What are you going to do about it. (https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/so-your-feeling-a-bit-down-eh-what-are-you-going-to-do-about-it)\n\n* [Hack Your life: An Introduction To Flow (https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/hack-your-life-an-introduction-to-flow)\n\n* [To Steem Or Not To Steem... That Does NOT Seem To Be The Question (https:\/\/steemit.com\/steem\/@metama\/to-steem-or-not-to-steem-that-does-not-seem-to-be-the-question)\n\n* [Late Night Rant... Dream Big Boys And Girls (https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/late-night-rant-dream-big-boys-and-girls)\n\n* [What Is Life Really?? Learning To Navigate The Craziness Of The Modern World (https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/what-is-life-really-learning-to-navigate-the-craziness-of-the-modern-world)\n\n\n\n**If you are enjoying the content that I am producing,<br> definitely hit that follow button as I will be creating much more! Also,<br> please let me know if you have any suggestions for things you would like to learn about.**\n\n![IF YOU LIKE TEH STUFF,<br> CLICK FOLLOW.png (https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmXQaiffFJ5GEDnhoQrdTAshvoqV6syiyLaeLDhnw7kbiD\/IF%20YOU%20LIKE%20TEH%20STUFF%2C%20CLICK%20FOLLOW.png)",<br>"json_metadata":" \"tags\":[\"life\",<br>\"steemit\",<br>\"blog\",<br>\"happiness\",<br>\"philosophy\" ,<br>\"image\":[\"https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmTcRytbKqg3qm36gCZiHm64gm8SPyAR3gqvyf4Ztwh2Gy\/maxresdefault.jpg\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmYQyxmJkbwqcZJv1J7S75y49unfFcTCwKCgeZngZGpAu6\/Helpdesk--1080x675.jpg\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmPrYMNRt36Tvpk6KV941qF9p32LYFNdxwkv8jxd3srwsW\/download%20(6).jpeg\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmRwyHd1ZYLh5zayatnzCbdLpviTee31LwdeGJjouh7fW1\/download%20(5).jpeg\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemitimages.com\/DQmXQaiffFJ5GEDnhoQrdTAshvoqV6syiyLaeLDhnw7kbiD\/IF%20YOU%20LIKE%20TEH%20STUFF%2C%20CLICK%20FOLLOW.png\" ,<br>\"links\":[\"https:\/\/discord.gg\/SuqC2ZV\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/through-the-darkness-we-see-the-light\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/happiness\/@metama\/hack-your-life-series-build-the-life-of-your-dreams\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/hack-your-life-series-play-to-win-and-be-happy\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/so-your-feeling-a-bit-down-eh-what-are-you-going-to-do-about-it\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/hack-your-life-an-introduction-to-flow\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/steem\/@metama\/to-steem-or-not-to-steem-that-does-not-seem-to-be-the-question\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/late-night-rant-dream-big-boys-and-girls\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/life\/@metama\/what-is-life-really-learning-to-navigate-the-craziness-of-the-modern-world\" ,<br>\"app\":\"steemit\/0.1\",<br>\"format\":\"markdown\" " |
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