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| comment | | "parent_author":"",<br>"parent_permlink":"anarchism",<br>"author":"sterlinluxan",<br>"permlink":"fiery-anarchists-and-online-debate-leveraging-emotional-intelligence-and-overcoming-volatile-impulses",<br>"title":"Fiery Anarchists and Online Debate: Leveraging Emotional Intelligence\u00a0and Overcoming Volatile Impulses",<br>"body":"<img class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-6440\" src=\"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/-Xz9rgh52g5o\/VWtlMoGZcEI\/AAAAAAAAFos\/v2176SaiD6c\/s1600\/bigstock-two-heads-of-people-with-mecha-25539083-resized-600.jpg.png\" alt=\"Love and Anarchy\" width=\"686\" height=\"392\" \/>\n\nThe ability to communicate compassionately is a matter of mastering<a href=\"http:\/\/psychologic-anarchist.com\/2015\/11\/13\/how-anarchists-can-communicate-more-compassionately\/\"> emotional intelligence <\/a>and leveraging conscious control of the fight or flight response.\n\nTragically,<br> many anarchists and logical\u00a0philosophers are not any better at controlling\u00a0their responses\u00a0than any other person. They may claim rational calmness,<br> but I rarely see this play out in debates\u00a0online.<strong> In reality,<br> it takes practice and effort to quell emotional upsurges of volatile energy.<\/strong>\n\nOne must focus on the feelings that arise in the ether of consciousness,<br> name those feelings,<br> and let\u00a0them pass\u00a0calmly like a voyager gliding through\u00a0empty space. This is a Zen\u00a0idea. \u00a0It is also a form of psychological control. It is called <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dbtselfhelp.com\/html\/self-sooth.html\" target=\"_blank\">self-soothing<\/a>,<br> and it is the epitome of emotional intelligence.\n\nIf anarchists\u00a0fail practice these self-soothing behaviors,<br> they\u00a0<span class=\"text_exposed_show\">will become enraged and start shit talking or shit posting,<br> and this form of communication does not have the positive effect of allowing the recipient of the message to feel warmth and connection. And it is this connection that is a prerequisite of effective persuasion.<\/span>\n<h1>Taking Communication Seriously and Getting on an Emotional Wavelength<\/h1>\n<div class=\"text_exposed_show\">\n\nIt is true that many people online do not care about this anyway. <strong>All they care about is trolling and trying to trigger people (although Steemit seems to be encouraging more novel and empathetic ways of relating).<\/strong>\n\nStill,<br>\u00a0many people in most web locales turn into instant trolls if they disagree with content.\n\nPersonally,<br> I think trolling\u00a0is an exhausting waste of time and energy,<br> so I take all of my communication seriously. I assume people\u00a0want to have an <a href=\"http:\/\/psychologic-anarchist.com\/2016\/03\/02\/anarchism-takes-courage-helping-people-escape-the-cult-of-normalcy\/\">authentic conversation<\/a>\u00a0and connection,<br> even if it is a subconscious impulse. Therefore,<br> I try to approach discussion with <a href=\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/anarchism\/@sterlinluxan\/anarchy-and-emotion-toward-a-softer-aesthetic-for-freedom\" target=\"_blank\">relationalism <\/a>and nonviolent communication in mind.\n\nAnd when I do this,<br> it allows me to fine tune my emotional responses to their emotional signals. It also allows me to get into their head and feel out what their reality is like. It bestows me with insight as to what\u00a0they need at that time,<br> helping me to better articulate and express ideas\u00a0more beautifully,<br> because I am now on the same emotional wavelength as\u00a0them.\n\nThis connection is what\u00a0creates a true dialogue,<br> and provides them with just enough calmness and clarity to considering changing their philosophy. This is the result of practicing emotional intelligence in the context of debate.\n\nL<strong>astly,<br> I admit that I am imperfect at times and get sucked into the content and fire of the message,<br> but I try to create\u00a0the most conscious and heartfelt discussions when possible,<br> even if I have to come back later and make amends for a reaction I was unable to control. <\/strong>\n\nCommunication is of utmost importance,<br> even in regards to online discussion.\n\nThis is a video I created a few weeks ago on Compassionate\u00a0Communication:\n\nhttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=AfIBDTIsYoY\n\n \n\n<img class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-7759\" src=\"https:\/\/psychologicanarchist.files.wordpress.com\/2016\/05\/anarchy-and-love.png\" alt=\"anarchy and love\" width=\"230\" height=\"219\" \/>\n\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"text_exposed_show\">\n\n<hr \/>\n\nMy name is Sterlin. Follow me @\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/psychologic-anarchist.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Psychologic-Anarchist<\/a>. I also run\u00a0the<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/psychologicanarchist\/\" target=\"_blank\"> Psychologic-Anarchist Facebook\u00a0page<\/a>\u00a0and produce many\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/c\/psychologicanarchist\" target=\"_blank\">YouTube videos<\/a>. My interests lie in the intersection of counseling psychology and anarchism. I write about the depredations of psychiatry,<br> and also the new philosophy of compassionate anarchism. We have a large community devoted to discussing psychology and relational voluntaryism.\n\n<img class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10398\" src=\"https:\/\/psychologicanarchist.files.wordpress.com\/2016\/08\/me-drawing.jpg\" alt=\"Me Drawing\" width=\"296\" height=\"394\" \/><img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-157\" src=\"https:\/\/psychologicanarchist.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/11\/black-brain.jpg?w=300\" alt=\"black brain\" width=\"300\" height=\"245\" \/>\n\n<\/div>",<br>"json_metadata":" \"tags\":[\"anarchism\",<br>\"anarchy\",<br>\"psychology\",<br>\"love\",<br>\"compassion\" ,<br>\"image\":[\"http:\/\/2.bp.blogspot.com\/-Xz9rgh52g5o\/VWtlMoGZcEI\/AAAAAAAAFos\/v2176SaiD6c\/s1600\/bigstock-two-heads-of-people-with-mecha-25539083-resized-600.jpg.png\",<br>\"https:\/\/psychologicanarchist.files.wordpress.com\/2016\/05\/anarchy-and-love.png\",<br>\"https:\/\/psychologicanarchist.files.wordpress.com\/2016\/08\/me-drawing.jpg\",<br>\"https:\/\/psychologicanarchist.files.wordpress.com\/2015\/11\/black-brain.jpg?w=300\" ,<br>\"links\":[\"http:\/\/psychologic-anarchist.com\/2015\/11\/13\/how-anarchists-can-communicate-more-compassionately\/\",<br>\"http:\/\/www.dbtselfhelp.com\/html\/self-sooth.html\",<br>\"http:\/\/psychologic-anarchist.com\/2016\/03\/02\/anarchism-takes-courage-helping-people-escape-the-cult-of-normalcy\/\",<br>\"https:\/\/steemit.com\/anarchism\/@sterlinluxan\/anarchy-and-emotion-toward-a-softer-aesthetic-for-freedom\",<br>\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=AfIBDTIsYoY\",<br>\"https:\/\/psychologic-anarchist.com\/\",<br>\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/psychologicanarchist\/\",<br>\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/c\/psychologicanarchist\" " | | vote | "voter":"sterlinluxan",
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